Finding the Guardian of Your Soul

GITRMM ep 39: What Type of Exclusive Are We?

Episode Summary

Life is precious, and time is our most valuable commodity. This week, Lisa and Benjamin are here to help you save your energy and heart by defining the two different types of exclusive relationships: monogamous vs. progressive dating. Benjamin walks us through the powerful yet seemingly subtle differences between the two, and which one you want to be in if you are seriously looking to get emotionally naked with the Guardian of Your Soul. He and Lisa give real-world examples of monogamy and the consequences that occur when one partner isn’t getting their needs met. Then, they show examples of a progressive relationship and what it looks like when both partners are all in.

Episode Notes

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Find out the two different types of exclusive relationships: monogamous and progressive dating.
• How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you focus on getting into a progressive relationship and find a partner who is ready to get Emotionally Naked with you.
• What are the consequences of being in a monogamous relationship for someone with an anxious attachment style? 
• How can you tell if the person you're dating is ready for forward movement, or if they’re just making excuses and stringing you (and the relationship) along? 
• Benjamin explains his desire to take things slow when first meeting Lisa, and how that allowed them to co-create a relationship built on trust, friendship, and vulnerability. 
• Invested time and shared experiences do not equal deep emotional vulnerability. 
• In a progressive relationship, both partners make conscious choices to integrate their daily lives and they find time to be together.

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Quotes: 

• “Distance can seem like a very viable excuse, but in the end, for two people to bring their lives together, they are going to have to find a way to work with it.” -Lisa 
• “There has to be a willingness on both sides to work together to figure it out.” 

- Lisa

• “Often, people mistake the time invested with deepening emotional vulnerability.” - Benjamin
• “In a monogamous relationship, someone settles for less than what they are looking for. It’s easy to settle into a routine and not have it go anywhere. Not planning for the future, getting vulnerable, or integrating into each other’s life.” 

- Lisa 

• “In an anxious-avoidant dynamic, they think there is a connection when the passion and intensity is really fear and desperation.” - Lisa