Finding the Guardian of Your Soul

GITRMM ep 15: How To Bring the ‘Baby’ Talk Into Your Dating, Whether You Want Kids Or Not

Episode Summary

How, and When, should you bring up the ‘baby’ talk? Do you know if raising children is the right thing for you? How do you find a partner who wants the same things you do? To have or not have kids is a big question and one you need to get clear on so you can attract the true Guardian of Your Soul! This topic often pops up in Lisa’s coaching groups, so this week, Benjamin and Lisa get into the nitty gritty. They share ways you can help a man feel invited to the conversation about kids, and how to filter out the men who definitely do or don’t want them. Also- what do you do about the guy that seems undecided and just wants to give it a few more years? Whether your choice is to have children or not, you can still be abundant in love, connection, and the feeling of family.

Episode Notes

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Benjamin shares a male perspective of what it’s like for men in the dating world who know they most likely don’t want kids, but the women they’re dating do. 
• If there's an accidental or unintentional pregnancy, then a man can feel trapped. So he could be very wary of dating, particularly someone who is hearing the biological clock and the ticking getting louder.
• Lisa was clear from the beginning that she didn’t want a child, but that is rare. How can women be up front and honest if they are interested in having children? 
• Biology is so powerful that a woman may not even know that she is looking for the future father of her kids rather than a life partner. 
• What are some of the reasons that men want to have kids, along with reasons why they would choose to not have them? 
• How can men avoid wasting a woman’s childbearing years if he is certain that kids aren’t in the cards for him? 
• Should you wait a certain amount of time to bring up the “do you want children” talk, or should you lay it out right away?
• How do you talk about having kids in a way that sounds inviting to man, rather than overwhelming? 

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Mentioned:

Game of Thrones

Marianne Williamson 

Quotes

• “If it is really important to have a life that feels fulfilled to have kids, then it needs to be brought up early.” - Benjamin
• “What brought Benjamin and me together was this very clear truth for both of us that we didn't want kids. And so that may have eliminated some very good people, but we were willing to do that because this was so important for us.” - Lisa 
• “It’s about sharing a dream, rather than a checklist.” - Benjamin 
• “Biology is so powerful that a woman may not even know that she is looking for the future father of her kids rather than a life partner.” - Benjamin