Welcome to Finding the Guardian of Your Soul, the podcast where we uncover inspiring stories of love and transformation. I’m Lisa Shield, your host, and I am so excited to introduce you to today’s guest. Cindy is living proof that it’s never too late to find the love of your life—she met her soulmate at 57! You are going to love this episode because Cindy’s story is relatable, heartwarming, and so full of hope. If you’ve ever felt skeptical about dating or wondered if it’s still possible to find real love later in life, Cindy is here to prove that it absolutely is. She’ll share how she went from hesitant and cautious to fully embracing online dating with confidence. You’ll hear how she overcame trust issues, healed from her past, and leaned into a coaching program that completely changed her approach to love. But that’s not all! Cindy also talks about how her faith, daily devotionals, and the support of a vibrant community played a huge role in her journey to finding her husband, Tom. It’s a beautiful, inspiring story that will leave you smiling, maybe even tearing up, and definitely believing that love can happen when you least expect it. So, grab your favorite beverage, settle in, and get ready for some inspiration. Let’s dive into Cindy’s amazing journey to finding the Guardian of Her Soul. You don’t want to miss this one!
Episode Notes:
Title: Love Takes Flight: How Cindy, a Pilot, Soared to Happiness at 57
Hosted by: Lisa Shield
Guest: Cindy Weichert (she/her)
Synopsis:
In this episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul, I’m thrilled to welcome the amazing Cindy Weichert, who has an incredibly inspiring love story to share. Imagine finding the love of your life in your mid-50s—well, Cindy did just that! After overcoming her own doubts and taking a fresh approach to dating, she met and married Tom at 57. Cindy’s journey is a beautiful testament to what’s possible when you embrace structured dating, lean on a supportive community, and stay open to love. Her story is full of hope, transformation, and a few surprises along the way—you won’t want to miss it!
Key Highlights:
1. Cindy's Background:
- Divorced in 2014, Cindy was initially distrustful of men and focused on self-healing.
- Encountered Lisa Shield on YouTube, inspiring a major shift in perspective towards dating and openness.
2. Transformation Through Coaching:
- Undertook a comprehensive dating program that included relationship inventory, learning online dating strategies, and community engagement.
- Cindy overcame her fear and financial concerns to commit fully to the process, resulting in a transformative personal journey.
3. Importance of Community and Support:
- Valued the network of like-minded women and the camaraderie fostered through the dating course.
- Emphasized the significance of structured plans and guidance to achieve major life changes.
4. Dating Journey:
- Created a specific online dating profile, refined with expert advice, to attract a compatible partner.
- Re-entered the dating scene post-breakup, leading to a meaningful connection with Tom through Elite Singles.
- Developed a long-distance relationship with Tom, who was still in the army, solidifying their bond before meeting in person.
5. Successful Relationship:
- Cindy appreciated the practical dating tips such as choosing a photographer, dressing for dates, and enjoying the process.
- The program helped her realize that not all dating failures were her fault and encouraged her to keep multiple options open.
- Credits the dating course for her successful marriage and personal growth, which she believes would not have been achieved alone.
6. Wedding Details:
- Cindy's wedding was a meaningful ceremony combined with Tom's retirement from the military, held at the National Infantry Museum's WWII chapel.
- This unique and perfect event signified the culmination of her journey towards finding her soulmate.
7. **Final Thoughts:**
- Cindy emphasizes the value of full commitment to personal development and the direct, forward-looking nature of coaching over traditional therapy.
- Lisa and Cindy conclude with gratitude and personal greetings, highlighting Cindy’s happiness and alignment with Tom.
This episode is a testament to the power of persistence, structured guidance, and the willingness to embrace change in the pursuit of love and fulfillment. Tune in to hear Cindy's inspiring journey and the profound impact of finding the Guardian of her Soul.
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Don’t miss this inspiring episode with Cindy Weichert and learn how you can find the Guardian of your Soul!
Lisa: [00:00:00] Hello, everybody. I'm Lisa Shield and welcome to Finding the Guardian of Your Soul. I am so excited because today I have a very, very special guest, Cindy Weikert.
Cindy: It is Weikert now,
Lisa: Cause that is not the name I first met with.
Cindy welcome. It is so exciting to have you here.
Cindy: Well thank you Lisa. It's an honor and I can't wait for us to, talk about everything that's happened in the last two years.
Lisa: Well, let's dive in. Let's start at the beginning where you were, when, and how you first found me.
Cindy: Yeah, that's interesting.
I honestly don't know how I found you. You just appeared. And I was not looking. Certainly, I didn't even [00:01:00] know people did and do what you do. So I was not looking for a dating coach, but I do remember, being on YouTube and There you were. You just appeared in my life.
And I listened to what you had to say. It's like, wow, that really, really hit me at a deep level. It's cause everything you said was just like, you knew me and we'd never even met yet. And so I decided to take advantage of your 45 minute preliminary consultation. I think we had a bit of a trouble, connecting for a week or so but when we finally connected, same thing, it was as if you knew me, you just nailed it, everything.
Lisa: And Cindy, let's talk about what was going on, in your love life.
Cindy: Nothing. I well, I had been divorced since 2014 and [00:02:00] I really had not dated. I did not trust myself. Didn't really trust men. I love men. I work with men all the time.
It was just. I needed to take this time out and focus on myself, on my son. I was homeschooling him at the time and just my own personal growth and development and my career and just to heal. So there was really no plan in place. I just knew I needed to take this time out. I didn't know if I would ever date again or be together with someone.
I know some friends had encouraged me to get on an online site, from time to time. And I was curious and I'd open it up. And within two minutes I was closing the computer and say, no, I can't do this. I don't trust myself. At that point, had I known about you, I probably would have reached out to you, but I just was not going to go this alone at all.
Lisa: And so you had not even really dated online.
Cindy: No, not since my divorce, no, I actually, I did [00:03:00] not dated. So that was what, almost eight years. And another thing that's kind of funny that. Around that same time, both my neighbors on both sides of my home, couples, a man and a woman on both sides moved out and single women moved in and it freaked me out.
I just didn't see myself being that for the rest of my life alone, single woman. So that was all around the same timing. And so that catapulted me into really being ready to take the leap and trust you and trust your program and just decide to go for it.
Lisa: And Cindy, can you share what you do for a living?
Cindy: I'm a pilot for a private jet company, a charter. So I fly an eight passenger corporate jet.
Lisa: amazing.
Yeah. There's a lot of travel, obviously. And there you were meeting all these men. That's all you did. You flew.
Men around you met [00:04:00] men you probably work with
Cindy: primarily men.
Lisa: And nothing was happening in your dating life.
Cindy: No. And I, again, I wasn't looking and most of them are married. And I think what you discovered early on was just that I was closed off to it. I don't remember. I don't know if you remember.
Lisa: I said, I don't feel like I can turn ahead and you set me straight, but I didn't, I wasn't witnessing that. I wasn't experiencing that men weren't asking me out, but clearly I was closed off. And so what was going on up here was manifesting out here. And do you think it was also because you were in a much more masculine way of showing up in the world?
Cindy: I can't, I've done this for so long, I don't know how to be different other than that.
Speaker 3: And
Cindy: I'm comfortable around men.
I can be one of the guys, I remember I [00:05:00] did an experiment after you and I started coaching together. And one of my trips I went down to the hotel restaurant bar and I would usually just get my stuff and go, I wouldn't hang out there. So I did this experiment and I'm going to put my phone down, I'm gonna put my head up, I'm gonna put my eyes out, I'm gonna look like I'm having fun.
And it was Christmas. So this was that Christmas of 22 and they bought these things that you could access via your phone. So I did that and I was turning the music on and off and I was just by myself, but I was having fun. Started chatting with the guy next to me.
And before I know it, yeah, this guy across the bar has given me the eye. So it was a very interesting experiment. Just to change my energy, that I was out there and like you had said, and I guess I was afraid I [00:06:00] didn't want to. Engaged that way because I didn't want people to, I don't know, it wasn't ready.
I didn't want to invite that into my life. But this was a really good experiment. Cause he was, he would have definitely showed me some interest. And when he walked out, he peeked over my shoulder and I was at my phone at that time and he said, Oh, cute dog, so there was some energy. It was definitely an energy change.
Lisa: it helped me understand like, okay. She's right. If I just open myself up and allow the energy to be different. or two. and you and I spoke and tell me what that call was like for you.
Cindy: I remember crying because, and I remember we probably went longer than that 45 minutes because you just hit things spot on a successful woman who has been successful in her career.
Yeah. Worked hard, spent a lot of money to achieve that level of [00:07:00] success and felt as if this, the romance side was just, going to fall into my lap. I was holding onto that Hallmark romance fantasy.
I didn't know what else to do.
And I just, I remember crying by the time we were off the phone. Coming to an end, I was bawling because it's like you were spot on. And that's it. And then now I was faced with this decision. Okay. I can have gone through all of that with you talking about this stuff and having this epiphany, I guess.
And just stay there or I can take this huge leap into this scary other place and trust you and possibly, go to a new place.
Lisa: And Cindy, if you don't have to share your exact age if you don't, but can you give women a sense of what age you, right around where you were, if you were in your fifties or your [00:08:00] sixties
Cindy: Well, I'm let's see. So I was 56.
When we started and I got married at 57 so
Lisa: yeah, you were in your mid fifties already when a lot of women are thinking, okay, that ship has failed. It's too late. I waited too long. I hear this all the time. Now, number one, I'm looking at you and I have all your pretty, you're even prettier now.
Speaker 3: Thank you
Lisa: I know you know that love allows us to relax into ourselves and let go and be feminine and not have to have those walls up and that tough time. exterior. And I can see that a lot of that, not that, I mean, you were gorgeous when you told me you couldn't turn a head.
I almost fell off my chair because you're an absolutely beautiful woman. [00:09:00]
Speaker 3: Oh, thank you.
Lisa:
You really stepped up, you really stepped up for yourself. So you signed up right then and there on that call. And what happened when you got off the call? Did you say, did you think, oh my God, what did I just do?
Cindy: Yeah. For about 24 hours. Yes, I was that was scary.
That was a very, it was a big commitment, a big financial investment. So yes, all of those things were very scary, but again, I think I just heard your words, and like you were so spot on and these, single women moving in next to me, it's that pain or pleasure, the carrot and the stick, which I'm like, I know I don't want that.
Speaker 3: don't want
Cindy: to be alone and I'm not going to do this on my own. I had to move forward and pull the trigger and here I am.
Lisa: And it was almost as if you had walked up to the edge and looked over [00:10:00] and said, no ,
Speaker 3: several times.
Lisa: right. You weren't doing it on your own. No, I'm not doing
Speaker 3: this.
Lisa: Yeah. And so let's talk about, you came into the course . And what was your first big breakthrough where you were like, oh my God. I made the one of the best decisions I could have made.
Cindy: The first I just loved going through the modules. This wasn't a, just somebody holding your hand and getting me online. It was like, no, we're going to take six weeks or so, and we're going to prepare you. I loved That you had all of these training modules
We need to evaluate and figure out these things. And I think the most profound during that time was the relationship inventory without a doubt. I, Can remember I had a day when I was working, but I was pretty much in a hotel room all day. And I was able to [00:11:00] really focus and dig deep on that.
And that was very eyeopening and healing. And I just remember that having a profound impact on me allowing me to put away the past, and move forward so that, and then I loved going live with all of the other ladies and hearing their stories and who's doing what and where they are and thinking things through and hearing how they're handling.
Because the dating situation, I've never really dated. I just got in relationships and I really didn't know how to date. And so all of this was new and it was very nice to have a community of like minded women on the same path at different stages to travel this new journey. Very helpful.
And reaching out to you and Cassie, et cetera, just made it all possible. And I remember [00:12:00] really enjoying those first few dates. I can, going shopping, getting new clothes, talking to my girlfriends. What do you think about this? What about this outwit or that outfit? and then like you would say not to really have any expectation for the outcome, but just to go have fun and learn something.
And so I really took that approach and I did, I had fun, but I also noticed that I definitely reverted to that anxious attachment style. And then Benjamin said something one day that. really changed everything for that. And that mindset was, he said how many other dates have you got lined up?
None. You need to fill your pipeline. And so filling the pipeline, changed everything, you didn't just put all your eggs in one basket and hope that this guy was going to be the one and work out, so it was just a really great learning process.
Lisa: And also [00:13:00] Cindy, I'm guessing actually having a structure, right?
If you're just doing it on your own, and I want you to, share with me your perspective on this, but my, my experience in life is that at this point at this stage of the game, if I'm going to make any radical changes in my life. It's almost impossible to do that on my own without help and structure.
It may seem like I'm going to read a dating book and go, Oh, okay. And figure it out. But if you don't have that accountability, The coaching, the whole step by step plan, the group Q& A calls where you can get your questions answered. Am I doing this right? Is there a better way? How do I say this? Should I go on another date with this guy?
If you're trying to make all of these major [00:14:00] changes on your own. who's going to make time for this?
Cindy: And I think women, of our age and career, it would be the, We're not a hundred percent secure in the dating world. Otherwise we, wouldn't be where we are, but so yes, to have that support network, that structure, that the guides you guys guided us, even down to picking, the photographer helped in so many ways.
Lisa: So that, okay, they've helped me create this whole package. Now I just need to show up and, and try to have fun on this date and learn something new. And we'll see where it goes. but it's so hit and miss, you have no sense when you're on your own. And especially like you said, if you've never really dated and you've just fallen into relationships and that hasn't worked so wellyou've been maybe attracting the wrong people, men that weren't on [00:15:00] your level or men who we're not good guys in the end, and
Cindy: I think that we can start to feel like what's wrong with me.
And now having gone through the course and your material and mentorship, really, yes, I was able to look at me and say, okay, I need to do this differently or that differently, but it's not all me. It's oftentimes the man
And it's just not a right fit.
And yet we try to, cram this circular peg into a square hole or something. And it's just why, been there, done that, didn't want to do it again. So I was thinking earlier before we had this call, it's like, where would I be today? My husband's right over there now. He's home and he works from home and he's in his office doing his work.
Where would I be today? I would not be married and in this situation had I not, God not put you in my life and had we, [00:16:00] you not had Your program in place and said what you said to me
Lisa: You would be
Cindy: I do not believe I would be here.
That's for sure. I would be here physically still by myself.
Lisa: Yeah, with all those single women moving in around.
Cindy: Yeah, freaking
Lisa: out
and still hungry. Cindy, talk about you did the first month you did your relationship inventory and of course the final five.
Speaker 3: Yes.
Lisa: And did that, did Benjamin write your profile? He did.
Cindy: then I tweaked it of course, cause I like to say that I created two profiles. A very narrow profile, you had to thread a needle and Tom did he, he'd thread that needle, but that's okay.
I didn't want to just, this big broad, whatever I was looking for very specific. and that's what worked for me.
Lisa: So [00:17:00] you had gone out, I think, with somebody else prior to meeting Tom.
Cindy: Yes.
Lisa: You really liked, who turned out not to be your guy,
Speaker 3: Yes.
Lisa: Right before you met Tom, you met a guy and I think you really liked him, but he turned out, did he ghost you or?
Cindy: No, he just dropped me like a hot potato. and I'm so thankful now. It was painful because everything seemed right. But, I just believe that was a divine intervention.
God said, Nope. And it's funny after that. I looked back at the text, what went wrong? What did I do wrong? overanalyzed the whole thing. But decided, okay, I'm taking 30 days off and I just shut it down.
Lisa: I
Cindy: talked,
Lisa: we actually, I think we talked after that. We had that when that happened.
You and I actually got on a call together and we talked about it and I know I would [00:18:00] guess because I know myself that I told you to keep going and
Cindy: I did. I just needed a little bit of time and I'm glad I did. because towards the end of those 30 days, I've started, feeling, the wounded healed and I was, curious again.
And so I started opening it up and taking a look and there was Tom's smile. And you tell
Speaker 3: me
Cindy: I mean, emoji smile. Yeah. I hadn't seen his profile, but he had seen mine and he sent me an emoji smile. Yeah.
Lisa: On what site? Everybody wants to know what site. Oh, Elite Singles. On Elite Singles.
Cindy: But I had been on, I think I had been on and off of two others, but yes, that was Elite Singles. And I know you've said stuff about the sides, one being better or not better than the other. I guess that's true. Just from my experience, it was more of a the, how the software [00:19:00] operates, some of them are clunky and easier to manage, than others.
So operationally, I guess that was, it wasn't as if all the cool guys, rich guys are over here, they are spread all out. Cause I think Tom was on match for a while and I don't think I ever went to match, Some of the platforms are just not user friendly, and I think Elite Singles was pretty streamlined.
Lisa: Oh, good. Okay, that's great to know. So you got his smiley emoji. And tell me what happened.
Cindy: It's funny because I was feeling a bit I guarded. Okay. and so I smiled back and we exchanged text messages a few times.
And he lived about four and a half hours away from me because he was still in the army up at Fort Benning. And so I was like, yeah I travel all the time. I just don't see me traveling on my own. On my off days, this is not going to work. So I was pushing him [00:20:00] out, but the cool thing is he's so politely, cause I, other guys that I would talk to would either get hostile.
And ugly, if you did that, others would say snarky things he was just the right amount of sweet and salt, so he very politely would pursue me and then he'd say something all romantic. I'm like, yeah, that sounds like a romantic, Hallmark movie, but yeah, I'm being real.
So there was this push and pull. he felt like I was rebuffing him but there was enough intrigue there that we just kept it going. And yeah, then moved to the phones, and moved to video chat. And for about a month before we ever actually saw each other face to face, we were building that way.
So in hindsight, this whole distance thing really worked to our benefit. In a couple ways, there was a lot of this lead up to the date rather than just You know, one text message and a phone call or something, and you meet for coffee and you never see him again. So a whole month to lead up to this [00:21:00] kind of build that anticipation.
And then when he came down to Jacksonville, he stayed, I think he came in on a Friday evening, late afternoon and didn't leave till Monday morning, stayed at a hotel. And so we had like multiple dates, our first date was about five or six dates.
So gave you a little bit more time to explore. And we had fun, we got to do the beach, we got to do the dinners, we got to do the breakfast, we got to do all kinds of different things.
Lisa: And how long before you knew that this was your guy?
Cindy: So that would have been in June of 22 pretty quick.
Lisa: I would say. So within a couple of months, yeah, I really felt strongly by August or so that this was real and we were making it work, long distance and job worked helped in that case actually. One thing I remember vividly about you, I remember [00:22:00] how incredibly cool you were.
Like you really got it. Once you started to learn about this stuff, you were one of those women who was such a good student. And I think one of the things that you said a couple of times, when I heard you, your message just resonated just clicked, you were saying everything that I was feeling, And I think that's so telling Cindy, because the way it wasn't just my messaging was good, but because my messaging clicked with you, you then really clicked with the rest of my messaging got it.
Like you really got it. Cause I remember from our conversations when we'd be talking and you were pretty confident by the time you had done [00:23:00] the first, maybe the first two months that you were going to meet somebody, you were determined, you were having a ball.
I was having
Cindy: fun. I don't recall tapping into that great confidence then. But maybe you saw something I didn't
Lisa: amount of fun you were having. I did have fun. You just were having so much fun and you were going on the dates and you were on fire and I just remember thinking she's going to me.
I may have probably said this to you. You're good. I know I did. You're going on one very quickly. Yeah,
Cindy: I don't know that I ever really believed that.
Lisa: I could tell by how you were being, you were just, you were open, you were having fun, you were enjoying men, you weren't getting in your own way.
I know the one guy was a setback and of course we know. Those guys are [00:24:00] not setbacks. They're setting us up.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Lisa: But I remember that, just how you were being. And I was like, Whoa, like what guy wouldn't want to be with her? You were in a great place. And it doesn't shock me or surprise me at all.
What an incredibly handsome couple you are.
Cindy: Thank you. Yeah, in so many things, it's just again, the timing. She was just, he hadn't been in, Back in the States for very long leading up to his retirement. There's so many things we just, every day we're like in awe going, thank you, Lord, because we know that he just brought us together where, and just that his personality and my personality, he he loves to talk about this.
He's so thankful to you, but back to the your course. Yes, I do. My personality, I definitely like structure. I like the fact [00:25:00] that you have very. Comprehensive, serious program just, Hey, I'm, let me help you get on this match. com or something. No, it is very deliberate, thought out lots of time, energy, your personal stories put into it.
That resonates with me. I like to, cross my t's and dot my i's and be prepared. And that, it did that for me.
Lisa: Well, you knocked it out of the park. Can you share Right now, I know you said you can't even imagine where you'd be right now. We talk about finding a guardian of your soul, and it sure sounds like Tom is the guardian of your soul.
When I see those photos, I look at the two of you and I think, wow, they are so aligned. They're so in love. They're so happy. And they bring out the best in each other.
Cindy: [00:26:00] Yes.
Lisa: I love that. And what does it feel like to have gotten it right this time, Cindy, to know you're
Speaker 3: making me cry again.
Cindy: I have to stop and pause and reflect like this because I'm so grateful that everything aligned. And, you came into my life. I said, yes, I moved forward. I walked through the steps. I did what you guys said. And I met Tom and it's yeah, it's amazing.
I have a life now and a life partner who I will spend the rest of my life with. and like my neighbors, they, I don't want to say that there's anything wrong with them or single women, but it just freaked me out. I didn't want to be that. And now I'm not. And we are truly partners and we are very much in love
We have this devotional time that we do most mornings when we can, when we're both we can do it over the phone too for traveling when we have time, but we'll spend an hour or so talking, reading a book together, [00:27:00] doing devotionals together, praying together. And that is so incredibly valuable, that time.
With any man in my life and really grounds us and it sets us up to be able to go out and do other things, whatever else we need to do, but it really keeps us connected and strongly bonded. I love that. And so, gosh, just not having that in and of itself.
Lisa: Could you imagine?
Cindy: No, I don't want to. I was there on my own for too long. And I don't want to go back.
Lisa: And also being a person of faith, most faith based people feel that partnership is a big part of that.
Speaker 3: Absolutely.
Lisa: Being able to share your life with a real partner is one of the great gifts.
Speaker 3: Yes.
Lisa: In this life and of being a faith based person. So I know that that would have to feel just like such a void in your life, not having someone and then to find a man who [00:28:00] shares your faith
Speaker 3: and
Cindy: wants to share your faith with you. It is an absolute dream come true.
It is otherworldly, beyond above and beyond, what I could have created in my own mind, as to what life could be like. I had hoped, certain things I had hoped, And just have a best friend.
He's my playmate, now too. That was a hope and a dream, but it's felt so out there and unattainable.
Lisa: I am so happy. I just loved you when we met. I feel every bit as more the same, as when we first met Cindy and just knowing that you're So happy and so in love and loved it is my greatest joy in life to think that this little program can [00:29:00] change other people's lives.
Beautiful women who deserve love like you. What would you say to that woman who's so afraid to make that investment? Or even just get on a call with us.
Cindy: Oh my gosh. Absolutely. If this is something in your heart that you want, to have a best friend, a partner, a guardian of your soul to spend the rest of your life with and find the right one Absolutely.
You just, I guess I weighed the pros and cons. I'm either going to stay stuck doing what I've always done, or I'm going to try something new. I'm going to trust you, trust the process and go out there. And I'm so thankful I did. And I would encourage them to do the same. Yes. Make the investment.
Trust the process, step through it. cause there's no guarantees in anything ever, but you're certainly going to come out a better, stronger woman, [00:30:00] period.
Lisa: Finding love at the end, is the goal. Program itself is really about personal transformation.
Cindy: Yes.
Lisa: for that
Cindy: When I never hesitated to tell anybody about you when I would start, go on a date or something, I had hired a dating coach. And I tell them about the program, they're like hi, sounds like therapy. I'm like, yeah, kind of was exactly what I needed, so I would encourage women absolutely to, to give, just trust, take that step out there.
Everybody's process and progress is going to how quickly or how not it goes.
Lisa: And just to be clear, like we do in a matter of months, what you may spend years trying to accomplish in therapy, because we're so focused on this specific issue,
It's really very focused and it's got a very specific outcome where, [00:31:00] you know, when you're in therapy, you could be talking about your issues with your boss one day or your kids or your whatever, so this is really a direct means to an end,
Cindy: I agree. I didn't need to go through that relationship inventory for, six months or a year or more.
No. I dug in. Yeah. No, went through it, learned from it and next.
Lisa: Yeah. You didn't want to sit there and stay there and process. No. That's the difference between therapy and coaching. Therapy tends to look backwards. Coaching looks forwards. We identify the problem so that you can focus on the solution to the problem.
I don't need to keep going back into the problem. I don't want you to, I want to get you here. And that's, what's so beautiful. Cindy, I am [00:32:00] so grateful and touched that after all this time you would come back and share your story. We've been trying to get you on here for a long time. It's been a crazy year for sure.
No, that's okay. I'm just glad that we were able to do it.
Speaker 3: Me too.
Lisa: And it's so great to see you and I know you had a beautiful wedding.
Cindy: Oh my goodness. Thank you. It was amazing because just in the real quick, it was Tom's retirement ceremony from the military at the National Infantry Museum.
And so he did his ceremony and was like let's just give everybody a twofer. They're here anyway, and as we discussed that, come to find out they had a World War II chapel on the grounds. So it was just perfect. Seriously, we can do your ceremony right here, at whatever that was one o'clock and then we can just walk 200 yards around the corner into this beautiful old World War II chapel and everybody can just join us.
I'll be the one to [00:33:00] change clothes. I'll be in uniform and get married. It was just spectacular. Everybody, we loved every minute of it and it wasn't over the top, but it was just right. And everybody had a good time.
Lisa: That's amazing. So it was like he ended one chapter of his life.
and walked right into the next chapter. Yeah. Oh, that's wonderful. Give him my love. And I just want to thank you so, so, so much. One last thing I wanted to just underscore, you talked about this being an investment. I have a five day masterclass coming up soon. It's five days.
It will be every day at noon eastern time. And this one starts on February 5th. So I'm very excited next Monday. And I am so [00:34:00] excited. But one of the things that we actually are doing as part of this masterclass on day five, we talk about making an investment in yourself.
Speaker 3: And
Lisa: what I did was I created, cause we give them a workbook for this The whole course. And one of the things I have all of the women do in the course is literally write down all the things they've done to try to get this solved, right? So therapy, reading, Googling, YouTubing, whatever, talking to girlfriends and look at how much time they've wasted, right?
Multiply that by how much you get paid hourly at work. So that's time, right? Because your time is worth money. And then we have everybody look at all of the expenses, like the cost of being single, the cost of paying all your bills on your own, [00:35:00] paying a single supplement when you travel, right? Not just your own retirement. And so we have them add up all the money and all the time that they are wasting. And by the time you get done looking at those numbers, it's Oh my God, this is the best investment I could possibly.
Cindy: You're absolutely right. And it's, I think you talked about return on investment.
Not just for the love side of things, but they were financial. Then beyond anything I could have dreamed of hope for, but of course that's not what I was looking for, but that came as part of the package and it's not something I'd really thought about so much before, you, until you brought it to my attention.
And so that's very valuable to sit down and put all that on paper because we just see that initial price tag and It's scary. [00:36:00]
Lisa: Yeah. But look at how much money you have saved. Having a partner. He takes for your dinners. He does all these things if it's the right guy, which we're wanting it to be.
And, think about all the dinners out every time you go to the grocery store, right? All of those things. And now you can cut all of that in half. One of our women, which I thought was really incredible. She said to me, I asked her cause she was a school teacher. And I said, how did you afford the program?
And she looked at me like it was a no brainer. And she said, Lisa, I knew I was going to meet my guy and I knew when I met him, he was going to be paying half of everything. So he said, she said the half that I saved for the first few months on rent and bills and all, I just took that. She had gone to her credit union and taken out a little, just a small.
Little personal loan. [00:37:00] And then she took half of all of her money. Like he'd give her the rent money, it would go right to paying off the money that she got for doing the course,
Cindy: Everybody's got to, find their process for that. But it is definitely, you can't just look at that, then the ticket, and but to look at all of this and It was so glad I did it.
So thankful I could have so easily allowed fear to make a decision. and I didn't, I just trusted it. And I walked, hold the trigger. And then I walked through each step. That's another thing. If you're going to invest this money, invest the time. Let this sit on your shelf and, or give it, 50 percent effort.
No, you decide that, you're going to do this. You're going to do everything that you have put in place. You're going to go on the dates and it just gets better and better and better.
Lisa: On [00:38:00] that note, Cindy, Thank you. I am over the moon. I wish you all the best. I want to thank you again from the bottom of my heart for being here.
And I want to thank everybody who joined us today. Thank you so much for listening. I'm Lisa shield. This has been finding the guardian of your soul. And if you'd like to join my masterclass, you can sign up by going to lisashield. com forward slash masterclass. If you cannot make the scheduled time, that's okay, because we will send you the link to the replay so you can watch them at your, Leisure.
You can also sign up for a call with a member of my team by going to Lisa shield. com forward slash reserve. Lisa shield. com is where you can learn more about me and the work that I do. There's also a link to a free 45 minute presentation, which is probably the one that Cindy [00:39:00] watched before she did her breakthrough call.
hopefully you will be our next success story and we can help you find the guardian of your soul. Much love to you all. And we'll see you next time.
Cindy: Thank you, Lisa. Tell Benjamin.
will you, can I meet Tom? you want me to, you're still on.
Nope.
Lisa: I ended the stream.
Cindy: Okay.