Finding the Guardian of Your Soul

Spark First or Flame Later: Exploring the Chemistry Conundrum in Relationships

Episode Summary

Welcome back to "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul®," the podcast that delves into the complexities of relationships and guides you towards finding a true, secure connection. In today's episode, titled "Spark First or Flame Later: Exploring the Chemistry Conundrum in Relationships," our host, Lisa Shield, takes a deep dive into the often misunderstood topic of chemistry in relationships. Join us as we unravel the mysteries behind immediate connections, attachment styles, and the importance of taking things slow. Get ready to reevaluate your approach to love and learn how to build a strong, secure, and lasting relationship. Let's dive in! Continue On Your Journey: Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com

Episode Notes

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Discussion of attachment theory and its influence on partner choice

- Highlighting the volatility and toxicity of relationships with anxious-avoidant attachments

- Realization that chemical attraction isn't the best foundation for a relationship

- Understanding the need to find different ways to connect with potential partners

- Exploration of managing one's own anxiety and building secure attachments

- Importance of taking time to get to know each other in building a strong relationship

- Emphasizing the need to observe how a person responds in difficult situations

- Encouraging enjoyment of the dating journey and taking the time to get to know each other

- Importance of finding a partner who respects boundaries and desires for a slower pace

- Identification of avoidant behaviors early on, particularly in men

- Differentiation between confident pacing and overwhelming love bombing

- Desire for calm and peace in relationships, especially in the early stages

Key quotes:

• "When I finally started to unravel this in my late 30s, early forties, and I started to look at all of the bad relationships I'd had, it made me start to realize that chemical attraction wasn't really a good thing." — Lisa Shield 
• "What's really hard for many people to wrap their brains around is the idea of a relationship that doesn't have those extreme highs and those extreme lows, but still is connected." — Lisa Shield
• "It doesn't matter how beautiful you are or how educated or successful or whatever, your anxiety will sabotage everything." — Lisa Shield 
• "One of the things that I started to do was instead of just jumping in and fixating on one guy I liked, I realized that it would be much healthier for me to date several men at once." — Lisa Shield
• "Relationships take time...You have to sit back and wait and watch and listen and learn before you just give your heart to anybody." — Lisa Shield 

Continue On Your Journey: 

Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa

Email the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.com