In this episode, Lisa Shield discusses the critical importance of finding a true partner, especially in the face of global and personal uncertainties. Reflecting on how the pandemic highlighted the need for companionship, Lisa emphasizes that having a supportive partner, or "Guardian of Your Soul," can help navigate life's challenges. She shares personal anecdotes about her relationship with her husband, Benjamin, and the emotional resiliency it brings. Lisa encourages women to prioritize finding meaningful love and offers insights on how her "Emotionally Naked Dating" course can guide them toward achieving this essential connection.
The World Is Changing Fast… You Don’t Have to Face It Alone
In this poignant episode, Lisa Shield discusses the evolving landscape of our rapidly changing world and the importance of having a supportive partner by your side. Lisa reflects on the impact of the pandemic, the current state of global affairs, and emphasizes why now, more than ever, it is crucial for women to seek the 'Guardian of Your Soul.' She shares her insights on the emotional resilience offered by true partnership, recounting personal stories and client experiences that highlight the transformative power of unconditional love and support.
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Hello, I am Lisa Shield and welcome to finding the Guardian of Your Soul. I hope you're having a beautiful day today. I wanna talk about what I think is one of the most important subjects. I could ever talk about or address as a love coach, and it's not an easy subject to discuss. I know people want dating strategies and how to find the guy and how to flirt, and what are the best dating apps and websites to be on.
And those are all subjects I cover, especially in my 12 week emotionally naked dating course. We give you. All of that information and more, I am also sharing that on these broadcasts. But today I wanna talk about something that's really been in my heart and I. I think it's something we really, we all need to look at as hard as it is to have this discussion.
So it's been five years since the pandemic began, and I realized this the other day. I was in shock and I realized that five years since the pandemic had started. Have gone by when my husband said to me out of the blue, the dogs are about to have their fifth birthday, and I stopped because we got them both right at the start of the pandemic, and I just was flabbergasted.
I couldn't believe how much time has just. Evaporated since then, and while Covid has faded into the background, like so many other defining events, it drew a line in the sand for me and for so many of the women I work with. And one of the most powerful things that happened during that time was that women were finally.
Dill. So they weren't traveling, they weren't going to meetings, they weren't running errands, and they couldn't distract themselves from the truth that they were single, that they were lonely, and that it was time. To face it and do something about it. And what I couldn't have predicted was that Covid would be the most successful time in my business because it woke women up and now we're living through another kind of wake up call.
The world is moving faster than ever. AI is quickly permeating. Every aspect of our lives, climate change is real. Billionaires are going to space while other people are barely making rent and the ground beneath us feels like it's constantly shifting. Now look, I get it. Love is not the solution to those problems.
It won't si. Yes, in a way, if you're Maryanne Williamson and we're looking through eyes of love and we're looking at life through a spiritual perspective, then yes, love is the anecdote to many of these things. But being in love, finding a partner isn't the solution to that. And I know that. But having someone to walk through life with somebody who feels like home.
That is more important now than it's ever been. So I am fully aware of this because Benjamin, my husband, is all of that for me. He's my calm in the storm, my safe place, my anchor. And after 23 years with this beautiful man, I can tell you this kind of love. It doesn't just make life sweeter, it makes it livable, and it makes the toughest times tolerable.
And even more than that, we laugh together. We hold each other, we comfort each other no matter what's going on around us. So having that kind of love and partnership and support is one of the greatest gifts any woman can give to herself. I was talking to somebody the other day and I said, that.
Having a partner for me is the key to life and the key to my happiness. It doesn't make me happy, but it makes me happy and it makes my life richer, fuller. I sometimes say it's like. For me, it was like being, living in a world of black and whites and grays, and then meeting Benjamin.
It was like everything turned to technicolor like in the Wizard of Oz. It was that magical for me. Now, I understand that a lot of you have a voice in your head. We call that your frenemy. And that frenemy will say, yeah, I've been in relationships and they're not that great. And I've been with men who took more than they gave and they, those relationships turned sour and they ruined my life.
They didn't add to my life. I'm not talking about that kind of relationship. I'm talking about what I call a guardian of your soul. And this is what I teach women how to find, not just a guy, not just a relationship, not even a relationship where there's con conflict. In my course, in my program and in all the work I do, what we show women is how to find what we call a true guardian of your soul.
A partner who. Guards your soul's journey in this lifetime. It sees who you are and who your soul is longing to be, and it supports you in becoming that and more, Benjamin sees more of me than I see of myself. In fact, he was the one who said, you should become a coach. He, when we first met, I think it was.
Three months into our relationship, he looked at me and he said, you really should be a therapist or a coach. And so that. Really spoke to my soul, and at the time I was importing from Vietnam and from Mexico, and I sold my business and enrolled in a coaching training program and never looked back. So it was Benjamin who actually saw my soul and what my soul was longing for.
And then. Helped me along that journey all the way. He's been my greatest supporter. Having that kind of love and support, especially in these times is more. Essential now than ever. So in this episode, I wanna talk about why now in the midst of all this uncertainty that we're all experiencing, why is this the actually the most important time for a woman to be searching for the guardian of her soul?
Let's dive in. As I said the other night, my husband, reminded me that our dog's fifth birthday was coming up and I gasped and I was like, oh my God, that means it's been five years since COVID. And just like that, it's faded into the background like AIDS or nine 11. But for me. There's a clear before and after that moment in time changed everything.
So in my world, women were forced to come to grips with being single and wishing they had a partner. They couldn't sweep it under the rug. They couldn't pretend that they were fine. They were. Isolated. They were quarantined and they were alone. And it made many people realize, many women realize that is not what they wanted for themselves.
Some of them were so isolated, they didn't see their own families, their own children or grandchildren, their parents. And yes, I know you know a lot of you were resourceful. You made the best of things, but many of you realized that you were disappointed. Not just that you didn't have a partner, but you, many of you expressed how disappointed you were in your.
Selves that you ignored this, that you didn't pay more attention to it, that you didn't make it a greater priority, to find a loving partner and that you were alone in the pandemic. So the the pandemic, at first when it happened, I was terrified. I thought, oh my God, there goes my business.
Who's going to wanna date now? And it actually turned out. To be the best time my business flourished as a result of it. The other day, Benjamin and I were talking about what's happening now. There's, certainly a lot of instability economically, which there also was during the pandemic. We're looking at the possibility of a recession.
We are. Looking at a lot of shifts and changes right now that are very unstable and for many of us, they're bringing up a lot of fear. And in the face of all that fear and uncertainty, a lot of you do not have partners to hold you, to reassure you, to comfort you to be there with you. If one of you loses your job, the other one can, help pick up the slack.
There are so many reasons why having a partner during this time is so important. So now five years later, many women have returned to their pandemic states of mind, and the truth is. If you really stop to think about it, we're even in a more chaotic chapter. The amount of change that we are on the precipice of many of us it's daunting.
I think, we don't even know. Where to focus our attention. There are so many things going on. AI is radically transforming every aspect of life. Climate change is no longer a future issue. It's here. It is right in front of us. Political tension, inequality, the speed of change is so destabilizing and the very ground beneath us feels like it's shifting and.
In the middle of it. I keep coming back to this. Having a partner doesn't solve any of those things, but it changes everything about how you move through them. So having a partner does not solve. Any of those issues I just mentioned, it's not going to change. If there is a fire and you lose your home or there's a flood or a tornado, it's not going to change if you lose your job or what happens, with the economy.
But it will change everything about how you move through those life events. We have a client who lives in Los Angeles who lost her phone, her home in the Palisades Fire, and she had done our course. And by the grace of, God or the powers that be, she had found an absolutely amazing partner.
And what could have been catastrophic for her wasn't because she had a home to go to. She had a man who welcomed her with open arms. They're actually getting married. She has somebody I. To hold her, to console her, to support her through this time in her life. And had she not made this a priority, worked with us and gotten our help to get this solved, she could very well have been found herself single in the midst of all of this.
That is the beauty of having a partner, Benjamin, is my home. He's my sanity, my center. He doesn't fix the world, but he helps me face it. He doesn't fix the world. He can't change what's going on out there, but he helps me face it. He helps give me the courage. To move through it and not become overwhelmed by it.
The other day when I was talking to him about the economy, and how things are going and that there may be a dip in the stock market and all of these things, what he said to me was, and end, your most successful time in your business was the pandemic. And women need love and partnership now more than ever.
If they're being honest with themselves, if they're being real. This is more important now than ever. There is nothing, you could have invested all your money in the stock market and you could lose it like that. I had a client and I asked her, and she wasn't very, financially well off, but she invested in our course and I asked her, I said, why did you do this?
Why did you make this choice? 'cause she also was a single mom with two kids. And she said, Lisa, I saved all my money. And I lost it all in my divorce. It all went to the lawyers, and all of the money I had earned and saved was gone. What? I would rather invest it in your program, in your course, in finding a true partner.
Because I have nothing to show for all that money. If the stock market crashes, if your house burns down, all of these things that we invest in, none of them have the enduring value of true love. What I have gotten in this relationship, the joy, the comfort, the companionship, the laughter, someone to do things with, travel with, have fun with.
I, and the world's biggest Snow patrol fan, and I happened to see that they were going to be performing in Los Angeles two days after we were going to visit friends there. And then two days later, they were going to be performing at the Wiltern Theater, which is just the most magical place to see a band, like My favorite band was going to be there.
And Benjamin said. Of course we have to stay those extra two days just to see a snow patrol. So you know, I would never have done that if not for Benjamin, if he hadn't said yes. We're going and our friends came with us. There is something so magical about having someone there where he's going to teach in Europe in a couple of months, and he wants me to come and join him there, which is so lovely when he used to teach about.
Probably 10 years ago or more now he, I didn't go with him because he was so focused, but now he has asked me to join him, which is wonderful. I can't wait to be there. But we were planning that trip and as we were planning the trip, he said you could go to Budapest while I'm teaching in Austria.
And I was like. I don't know if I wanna go to Budapest by myself. I've traveled a lot on my own, but the idea of traveling around and seeing all those places by myself, just knowing that Benjamin could be there with me, it just didn't sound like as much fun. I used to love traveling on my own or with a girlfriend, but it's so different with my husband and my partner and the love of my life, there's all these great adventures to look forward to. We're going to Europe and we're going to be going to Australia, which I never expected to go to Australia, but he's getting all these calls to go teach in these wonderful places. And of course we're going to go, so we're, we'll be spending my birthday in Sydney.
And these are all just adventures that we get to go on together and they're bright spots no matter what's going on in the world. It's just a bright spot to have a partner to do these things with and these adventures to look forward to and to not be doing it all on my own. So that's why now more than ever, finding a guardian of your soul isn't just about romance.
It's about emotional resilience. Having someone to listen to you, to validate you, to keep you sane, to make you feel safe, and to help you stay grounded in these very turbulent times. And I just. Don't know what I'd do without Benjamin right now. So if you're listening to this and there's that little voice in your head that's te still telling you, that love can wait.
I really wanna challenge that voice because there's always going to be something. There will be your kids, there will be the pandemic, there will be, a big project at work, or you'll be between jobs or whatever your excuses are. And if you look back over the course of your life, if you haven't prioritized this, or maybe you've put yourself up on a dating site, thinking that was the answer.
But you never really did any work in this area. You've never committed to really digging deep and looking at why you're single, why you've been choosing the wrong man, why you have been afraid to prioritize this and. You've never really invested. We invest in so many things in our educations and getting advanced degrees and so many things, houses, cars, the stock market, which you know, is tanking.
And if you think about it. The money that you may have lost, in the stock market recently, you could have put that money, that same money into doing a program like mine, and you could be with your partner right now. You could have given yourself the greatest gift you could. Instead of investing in the stock market, you could have invested in you, in your future, in your wellbeing.
In fact, the Surgeon General has said over and over again that we have an epidemic of loneliness in this country. We have an epidemic of loneliness. Over 50% of adult women are unmarried today. And single. This is unheard of in today's society, so especially with what's going on. Had you invested in this, you wouldn't be single right now.
You may not have been single during the pandemic. And the biggest mistake women make is they meet the next guy and they think, okay, they get all excited and think this time it'll be it because they're crossing their fingers and they're wishing and hoping that this time they'll get lucky this time, they'll win the lottery and they don't do any real work.
On themselves in this specific part of their lives to make sure that they don't keep going from one relationship to the next, but that they actually know what they're doing. They know how to pick a partner. They know the signs of an available man, a high caliber man, a generous man, a loving man, and they are out there.
They are out there. And we show you how to find them. But if you're still telling yourself that love can wait, you are going to keep putting this off and putting this off until it might be too late because the world isn't slowing down. The pace of change isn't reversing. In fact, it's speeding up. People don't want to hear this because they can't, the human mind, it cannot comprehend cataclysmic change.
But that's exactly what's going on with global warming, with po, with the political climate and with ai, and there are three things. Three, not one, but three major events that are happening right now. And if you don't prioritize love and you keep waiting, it's not gonna change. It's speeding up, it's not slowing down.
And in the face of that going it alone just might not be as awesome as it used to be. You know how much longer can you just keep saying, oh, I'm fine. I'm fine. I've got my grandkids, I've got my, my kids, I've got my girlfriends, I've got my family. But you come home to an empty house, you turn on the news and you can barely stand to watch it.
You look at the, the stock market and it's a knife twists in your stomach and there's nobody to turn to. Who loves you, who's there with you? Who's going through it with you, who's consoling you and saying, it's gonna be okay? We will be okay. We're gonna get through this together. So I want you to think about what it would feel like to come home, not just to an empty apartment or to an empty home, but to the guardian of your soul, the love of your life.
A man who cherishes and adores you and is there for you, someone who can hold space for your soul, even when the outside world feels crazy and unpredictable. To wake up every morning and fall asleep at every night in the arms. Of the man you know you will spend the rest of your life with, what would it mean not to be alone anymore?
Not just physically, but emotionally, spiritually?
That's what we can help you find. This will be the greatest gift you've ever given yourself in this lifetime. And we have helped solve this for hundreds of women for more than two decades. So in a shifting world, real partnership isn't a fairytale. It's one of the most powerful gifts you can give yourself.
The thing that will ground you. And that will help you make it through these tough times. And I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt, you deserve that kind of love and we can show you how to find it. It's what I've had for over 23 years. I didn't get lucky. I didn't just find true love. I did the work.
I did the work first on myself, and then I went out When online dating just started, I was at the very beginning and I went out on 96, first dates in two years so that I could find real love and I wasn't willing to settle. I had done that in the past. I knew it didn't work. And you don't have to go on 96 first dates.
That's why I created emotionally naked dating so that I could help amazing women like you find true love, the real deal, unconditional love women. We just did a grad call. There were over a hundred women from my course who have gone through the program and. Women came on that call and they were sharing their success stories, many of which I hadn't heard because these women met their guys after they met the course.
But they credit the work that they did with us, with the quality of the relationship they found, and the man that they chose as their partner. They said, Lisa, I would've never had a relationship like this. I might have met somebody. But I would never have had a relationship like this if I hadn't done END emotionally naked dating.
So please, I invite you. Now is the time. It's not going to get easier. And I'm not a pessimist. I'm a realist, folks. I'm a realist. There is tremendous change happening right here, right now, and it's only happening faster and faster. So please do yourself a favor. Go to lisa shield.com. Click the link to watch my free presentation.
I think it's about 30, 35 minutes. You will learn so much just from watching that, and if you resonate with what you hear, you really wanna get our support and need my step-by-step plan to be able to get this solved. Now because you can take what you hear in that webinar and you can, it'll be just like another book you read.
There'll be great ideas. You'll have some aha moments. You'll go, okay, I get it. And then you'll go right back out and make the same mistakes because you can't see your own blind spots. There are things you don't know, you don't know you need coaching. You need information and you need a way to apply that information in the dating world so you can find your guy.
Let us help you. I'm Lisa Shield. Thank you for listening. Please also go to my podcast. There's a page on my website of all of our podcast episodes. You can watch many of the, you can watch them all there. But you can also see the episodes getting inside the right male mind where I probe the brilliant, beautiful mind of my husband Benjamin.
So you can hear from a very healthy, masculine male perspective about dating love. Relationships and all. So thank you for listening. I look forward to seeing you next time, and please send us your ideas. If you have ideas for future conversations, topics you'd love for me to explore or just comments that you'd like to make, please send them to hello@lisashield.com and I'll see you next time.
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