Episode Title: You’re Not Broken — You’re Just in Survival Mode In this powerful episode of Getting Inside the Right Male Mind, Lisa and Benjamin Shield dive into one of the biggest hidden blocks successful women face in dating: survival mode. Most high-achieving women don’t even realize they’re operating from burnout, tension, and emotional overdrive. But men feel it instantly. And what you see as “I’m just tired” lands in a man’s body as rejection, disinterest, and emotional unavailability. Benjamin shares exactly what men experience on dates when a woman is in survival mode — including why even good men pull away, shut down, or assume you’re not interested. Together, Lisa and Benjamin offer simple embodied practices that shift you out of survival mode and back into feminine flow, presence, playfulness, and connection. This episode is the mindset reset every successful woman needs before stepping into the dating world — whether you're using online dating, dating websites, or even the best dating apps.
In this episode, Lisa and Benjamin explore:
How stress, overthinking, and constantly being “on” create invisible emotional armor
Why most accomplished women don’t realize they’re broadcasting tension
How burnout leads to protection mode, emotional walls, and shutdown
Benjamin breaks down:
Why men physically feel your tension in their bodies
How survival mode reads as rejection, dismissal, or “I don’t need you”
Why men feel unsure, anxious, or useless when you’re overwhelmed
How this energy kills playfulness, chemistry, and romantic momentum
What happens when women confuse venting with vulnerability
How oversharing, rapid-fire questions, or emotional dumping shuts men down
Why many women walk away saying, “No chemistry,” when it’s really survival mode blocking connection
How men interpret disconnection, busyness, or rushing from one task to the next
Why playfulness is essential for attraction — especially for masculine men
How survival mode narrows your perception and eliminates play
What presence feels like to a man, and why it instantly creates chemistry
The difference between being independent vs. emotionally inaccessible
Lisa and Benjamin share practical tools:
A single deep breath that resets the energy instantly
How to acknowledge stress without dumping
How to communicate authentically when you’re not at your best
Small rituals that bring you back into your body before a date
A pattern interrupt technique to reset the tone mid-date
Why men may default to short-term relationships when overwhelmed
How masculine men pull themselves out of the dating pool
How stressed men may be drawn to stressed women for the wrong reasons
How presence, softness, and playfulness draw in high-caliber men
How vulnerability (not oversharing) opens the door to real intimacy
Why partnership allows women to finally rest, soften, and feel supported
Why being in a safe relationship creates space for authenticity, emotions, and ease